What You’re Not Saying Is Hurting Your Sex Life

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What are the conversations you're not having with your partner, and what is that silence actually costing you?

Dr. Jennifer Freed, psychological astrologer and therapist, is back and we went deep. We cover victim language vs. power language in sex, the three real reasons we avoid intimacy conversations, and how to actually get to your "power yes." Plus listener questions on threesomes, low libido, spotting a sensual lover, and what EMDR really does to your brain.

Jen also coins the term "emo porn" and we both have to admit we're guilty.

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Chapters

• 0:00 - Where Your Words Go, Your Energy Goes
• 2:34 - Meet Dr. Jennifer Freed: Psychological Astrologer and 30-Year Therapist
• 4:03 - Men’s Biggest Sexual Challenge (And It’s Not What You Think)
• 5:08 - Sex as an Expectation vs. an Invitation: Why the Framing Changes Everything
• 5:28 - The Victim Behaviors Secretly Killing Your Power in the Bedroom
• 7:36 - “I Have To” vs. “I Get To”: The Language Shift That Rewires Your Brain Around Sex
• 9:34 - The 30-Minute Body Mapping Exercise That Can Transform Your Sex Life Tonight
• 10:21 - Your Feelings and Sensations Are the Only Irrefutable Truth
• 11:22 - Men and Performance Anxiety: What Would Happen If They Were Just Allowed to Receive?
• 13:22 - The Serial Sex Guy Who Was Depressed (And What It Reveals About Frequency)
• 16:05 - The Forbidden Conversations in Your Relationship Are Exactly Where the Juice Is
• 16:36 - The Three Reasons We Hide Things From Our Partners: Security, Control, Approval
• 18:45 - The Gaps in Relationships Are Where the Damage Lives
• 19:48 - Q: How Do You Keep the Fire Going While Still Being Vulnerable?
• 20:35 - Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist: What to Share and What Not To
• 22:11 - Revelation Is Not a Dump: Trust Is Built Through Accretion
• 23:37 - Erotic Tension and Otherness: Why Mystery Is Essential to Attraction
• 24:04 - Things You Should Never Say — and How to Say the Hard Things Instead
• 26:09 - The Conversation Is an Invitation, Not a Confrontation
• 27:06 - Q: How Do You Reconcile With Men After a Painful History With Them?
• 28:55 - Q: Hookup Buddy Wants a Relationship and You Don’t — What Do You Do?
• 30:01 - Mixed Messages, Time Limits and Why You Need Friends Who Tell You the Truth
• 32:03 - “Emo Porn”: The Concept That Explains Your Most Dramatic Friendships
• 33:47 - Q: How to Spot a Sensual Lover Without Sleeping With a Lot of People
• 36:14 - Astrology and Compatibility: What Your Sun Sign Actually Cannot Tell You
• 37:48 - Every Relationship Is a Teacher — the Most Courageous Spiritual Path
• 38:12 - Q: How to Ease Into an Open Relationship or Fulfill a Threesome Fantasy
• 41:08 - Q: Does EMDR Therapy Actually Work?
• 43:03 - Q: Low Libido at 25 After Five Years Together — What’s Happening?
• 44:21 - It’s Not Low Libido, It’s High Boredom (And the Real Fix)
• 45:10 - The Secret to Reigniting Desire: Go Back to Courtship