Emily's Ultimate Guide to Dildos
Insert mindfully.
Apply plenty of lube to the toy and to your body before you insert your dildo. Things will feel more comfortable and pleasurable that way. r
Try penetrating while you masturbate externally.
Get creative! If you’ve got a vulva, stimulate your clitoris while you have a dildo inside. You’ll wake up a ton of pleasurable nerve endings with this combo.
One size does not fit all.
Sometimes “girthy” dildos feel great, while other times you may prefer something more modest. It can take a few tries before you find the width that truly works for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Which material is best for me? Glass, silicone, crystal?
Which material is best for me? Glass, silicone, crystal?
Many people prefer the “harder” surface feel of glass, crystal, and stainless steel. These also conduct heat and cold, making them a nice choice for temperature play.
Meanwhile, many people like the flexibility of silicone. Some silicone dildos feature ridges and raised textures. Silicone does not conduct heat or cold. For an extremely small portion of the population, silicone allergies rule out silicone dildos.
Should I wait to use the larger sizes until I have worked my way there?
Should I wait to use the larger sizes until I have worked my way there?
Yes! For any insertion toy, whether it’s vaginal insertion or anal insertion, start at a modest size and work your way up. This helps prevent microtears and fissures.
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